How to find true love in our life partner? What do you think when someone says matchmaking or dating or introduction agency? Are you happy with your partner? Are you happy and single? Not happy and in a relationship? Or not happy and single? Are your friends telling you should to be this way or that or maybe you feel the pier pressure? What do you think of dating? Whatever if it is, please try to shut the noise out and listen to your heart, or are you are just plain confused. Well maybe a matchmaking service might be just the ticket Mr Book (name the movie!)
Relationships are reported on by the bucket load in the press. I am a thinker, maybe an overthinker, typical for creatives, but in the big picture life is pretty simple, whether you are rich or poor, big or small or really not sure whether you are a person or a donkey! We just need to find the key to the de confuse box.
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Girlfriend, Boyfriend or Soulmate
As I say I overthink so its important for me to get out the house when I am in this mode. I remember a Greek holiday when I was younger with a girlfriend, and I wanted a water ski. I sat there and ummed and ahhed and maybe’d and my girlfriend said just do it. So, we waded out to the boat, I skid and ended up with a big smile on my face. Simples as they say, but I needed someone to love me and try to get me to not overthink and just do, as she knew I would like it.
So, relationships need to be about love but equally love can come in various forms. The vast majority of us want to be loved by someone and we equally want to care for someone else, as in a nutshell we want to be part of a tribe in some way. We want to find our nest in some form. It’s a natural feeling. Equally my feeling is the world is so overcomplicated and full of needless rubbish. The vast majority of us want a good night’s sleep, some tasty food, a calling in life, a family set up in some form, time to laugh and a partner or a soulmate.
Not my soulmate but this hit the spot. Perfect!
I know I am at my happiest when life’s needless clutter is removed.
Sometimes we find going shopping with a person that has good taste, is a good idea as what we feel suits us is not always the best for us. In the same way with relationships, whether family, friends, business or personal we can end up going round in circles, “our life circle” as this is what I like? And this is who I am. Well is it?
How do we Communicate
In a “Le Flaneur”, Gentlemans Butler’s luxury newsletter we talked about how we communicate
“To my mind conversation is an art, it’s not a factual tick box exercise but a way of exploring, getting inside someone’s soul and if there is a group of you, you can have a blast starting with talking about eating fish and chips in Moscow and ending up skiing in the Sahara. It equally does not need to make sense”
“…you get things wrong, as we are not perfect is to my mind important as this means there can also be more honesty in dialogue …. This however needs to be used carefully as you need to feel the testing barometer has been passed otherwise the other person probably just thinks you are an idiot…”
To read more about how we talk to each click here
That’s why going to a professional can be an excellent idea as it’s a fresh pair of eyes, and real ones and not an algorithm. Like those wonderful old hardware stores as in this very famous sketch from The Two Ronnies.
It had been a long time since I had watched this but some 50 years on its still priceless but also highly pertinent to relationships and dating in that we all need to try to see the lighter side of life. I am told certainly ladies prize humour as a strong quality and in life in general a big smile and some kindness will get you a long way.
The sketch shows the hardware store with a box with the exact little widget you need, and they know where those boxes are. Well without being fixated on DIY life is becoming less and less bespoke but if you really need the answers the opposite is needed. It needs to be bespoke.
I am talking from experience in that sometimes, especially when we get to a certain age, we need to think mmm maybe I should go through the round window instead of the square one. Showing my age there. You must know the children’s programme I am talking about or equally when you go into Mr Bens shop try being turned into a farmer maybe if you always want to be a doctor! Are you following me?
I recently met up with Hayley who runs Bowes-Lyon Partnership. As two people we are natural chatterers and had no problems communicating and with Surrey roots and love of English pubs we had a good old natter. We get to talking about “type” a pet peeve of mine as I hate to be put into a box myself and I really try not to do that with others and it appears Hayley agrees as she recounts in an interview she did where she says words to the effect “well if that’s your type its obviously not working!”
Rather refreshing to hear someone in the luxury world be blunt. Sometimes blunt is very very good.
Finding your Life Partner
Strangely enough, for myself, I hate to say I like this or that as it sounds so formulaic, and life is anything but formulaic. I can remember in my early twenties sharing flats and I loved having parties and people will say “your friends will not like mine” mmm I would say, you would be surprised!
However, I think there are narratives about feelings that we like such as for me I know I need empathy and kindness though interestingly kindness can either be very gentle or as they used to say tough love, but they are both forms of kindness.
Hayley says
“What I love about my role is that every day is a school day – members come to me looking for the same solution – a long-term committed partner but they all have the most intricate, fascinating, and sometimes heartbreaking backgrounds, and Michael was no exception.
Many of the relationship potential felt like a ‘sliding door’ moment – where possible opportunities were there and missed, because of other distractions such as career progression and even family expectations of the type of relationship he should be in. Such a common theme with my members where they have married young because of pressure/family expectation or perhaps married later because of fear of not meeting someone and being alone, and then find themselves single at an age that they did not anticipate.”
How to meet people
Hayley reiterates to members that this isn’t a personal problem, it isn’t them, it is modern society. The avenues to meeting new people seemed to have brick walls at the end of them. Everyone is busy, they walk around with their blinkers on staring into a device and they don’t see what is around them. Social networks have shrunk or disappeared in recent years, and meeting someone through work can be deemed career suicide – people come to me thinking that the issue is themselves, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Modern society has stopped us interacting and connecting with people; finding friendships is hard and finding romantic partnerships is even harder.
Who am I
I was absolutely 100% bowled over by how much Hayley figured me out in 1 meeting.
I do not think I am the easiest of people to read as I think I am full of contradictions but reading what she wrote absolutely convinced me they know what they are doing.
She wrote a biography including the following which is totally true “he is an open book and refreshingly wears his heart on his sleeve.
Creative, empathetic, and honest, he’s someone who genuinely listens and connects with people on a deep level. “
“Food is another passion particularly Italian cuisine, where every meal feels like a celebration. he isn’t shy about admitting his fondness for a good romcom when the mood strikes.”
Michael is no stranger to the finer things. But beyond the opulence, he’s searching for something more grounded, a partner who shares his zest for life.”
She continues to say
“A contributing factor to why people remain single or repeat patterns in relationships is that they are afraid to step out of their ‘comfort zone’ when it comes to dating. Often members will refer to their ‘type’ in a partner and how they have always dated that ‘type’ but yet they are single! To us on the outside it can seem obvious that something about their type isn’t quite working, but when you are in a relationship pattern it can be daunting and nerve-wracking to explore someone who is outside of your type. Which is where matchmakers can offer benefit and invaluable insight, guiding and advising members on their dating journey and being that ‘safety net’ of support to explore outside of their usual dating patterns that have kept them stuck or single. “
Bowes-Lyon Partnership
Bowes-Lyon Partnership is a professional matchmaking service that believes in putting traditional romance back into modern dating. Their members are eligible, accomplished ladies and gentlemen, between 30 to 80 years of age, and all are looking for a long-term committed relationship with a like-minded partner.
Established in 2009, Bowes-Lyon Partnership receives over 80% of their clientele by personal referral and recommendation and will often have to create a waitlist for membership, at certain points during the year. With their high success rates, we can attribute many enduring relationships, marriages and even families to our name.
Their personal matchmaking service aims to take the pressure out of dating, making the experience, of meeting someone new, enjoyable and fun. The secret of our success is simple: we personally meet each and every member and spend time really getting to know our clients and their needs.
Customer-service is of paramount importance and we hand-pair our members with the utmost discretion and confidentiality, ensuring our members private life remains private. Our personalised approach and the attention to detail, within our matchmaking process, has resulted in hundreds of compatible matches.
Annual Membership fees start at £10,000 + VAT and all members have a dedicated matchmaker who is their personal confidante on their dating journey. With offices in Mayfair, London, and Surrey, Bowes-Lyon Partnership has members nationwide as well as in and around Europe.
If you are looking for a modern matchmaking agency that retains traditional values, then Bowes-Lyon Partnership would welcome the opportunity to speak with you.
T: 0203 866 4440 / 01483 418958
www.bowes-lyonpartnership.co.uk
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